One of the best dates I have ever went on was with a guy who I felt was 100% present with me. We didn't do anything special or go anywhere unique. We sat at a restaurant and talked. The food wasn't even that good. What I do remember from that night was that I felt that he was completely in the moment with me. He never checked his phone. He looked me in the eye. He responded to what I was saying and wasn't just trying to make a point. He was so in tuned to me that it almost made me uncomfortable. I am not used to that sort of attention. People are usually in their phones or waiting to say their next sentence.
I am guilty of this too. I hold onto my phone like it carry's all of the secrets of the world. I know I have been physically, but not mentally present with a person that I was sitting across from. I do not want to be that person anymore. I know how it felt for someone to be 100% present for me and I want to be that way for others.
One of the things that I loved most about going to private school for grade school was the fact that I had to wear a uniform. I didn't have to spend time in the morning figuring out what I needed to wear and I was never really the type of person to stay up on the latest trends. I have always cared more about cleanliness, good fit, and good quality.
After watching a video today call "The Benefits of a Simple Wardrobe" it reminded me of my joy of a simple wardrobe and the benefits that it brings to me. This is going to be my next project. I am going to simplify my wardrobe and make sure what I do wear is clean, fits well, and is of good quality.
Beyoncé and Jay Z released a song called Ape Sh*t that of course I am in love with. After listening to it several times I heard a lyric today that is my new debt free mantra.
"Gimme my check. Put some respect on my check. Or pay me in equity. Watch me reverse out of debt."
I wrote out this lyric and put it on my vision board to look at whenever I sit down at my desk to write. Paying off my school loans is a journey and a fight and I need all the sauciness and power I can get.
Today begins the countdown to when my summer time with my son ends and he heads to his other home. Today is the last Sunday and tomorrow will be the last Monday and on and on. I had an amazing month with him, but it gets hard not the think about all of things that I wanted to do with him but didn't.
I am happy though that had a great home to go back to and that I know he is safe. Hopefully soon enough he wont be so far.
The noun hussy is an insulting and somewhat antique way to refer to a woman whose actions don't line up with traditional ideas of being respectable. A sexually bold women is most likely to be called a hussy, especially if she's seen as "stealing" another woman's partner. Originally, hussy was a shortening of the Middle English husewif, "housewife." Through the 1500's, hussy came to mean "any woman or girl," and by the 1650's it meant "an improper woman or girl."
I missed my day writing yesterday because Weebly and/or my internet wasn't allowing me to be my best self and I couldn't get on the editing portion of my site so this is to make up for yesterday.
I am currently reading the book The Year of Less which is helping me to re-connect with my goal to pay off my schools loans. I was so focused the last couple of years, but this year my progress has slowed down to a turtles pace. It happens though. In a world that is focused on taking all of your money from you it can get exhausting trying to hold on to it.
I had a great day today! I went to a parade with my son and some friends. We then went to the lake and enjoyed the water. We ended the day eating dinner with a bunch of people. This day renewed me. I was able to soak up the sun and the water and be surrounded with positive fun people.
How did you spend your day?
Colombia is out of the World cup today and it sucks. My son is half Colombian so we were rooting for our team to win. Although they are an amazing team, today England happened to be better. Losing is hard. You can prepare, practice, and train and still lose. You can be better, strong, faster, smarter and still lose.
I used to compete in beauty pageants when I was younger and I wasn't very good at them so I experienced defeat a lot of times during competition. No matter how upset I was I continued to compete because I loved the experience, but also because each failure taught me something. Maybe it was a technique that I learned from another girl, the importance of speaking up and confidently, but mostly it was learning how to hold my head high, get back to work, and try again.
Colombia I will be waiting for your return in the next World Cup!
Do you want to really know how someone feel about you? Tell them no. Say no to always showing up when they ask. Say no to being available whenever they need you. Say no to things in the relationship that no longer work for you. Say no to adjusting your boundaries and say no to letting them cross them. So no when they expect you to say yes. Say no to being their doormat. Say no to what you do not agree with. Say no to doing as much as they are asking. Say no when you are feeling uncomfortable. Say no to what is their emergency, but what is not yours. Say no when you previously said yes.
Different ways to say no:
That doesn't work for me.
I can't do 10, but I can do 5.
I am unavailable.
I changed my mind.
I don't want to.
I don't have the time.
I already have plans.
That is not in my budget.
No thank you.
What happened the last time you said no?
Furby's,Typewriters, record players, pagers, auto case tapes, Blockbuster/Hollywood Video, calling cards, VHS tapes, 8 tracks, Oregon Trail, Gameboy, Atari, landlines, Nintendo Power Pad, recording mix tapes off of the radio, pre-Apply Pay, memorizing telephone numbers, payphones, commercials ending in "AOL keyword:________", dial-up internet, answering machines, purple ketchup, television dials, rotary phones, Miss Cleo, blowing on your Nintendo cartridge to get it to work, floppy disks, CD singles, pre-social media, record stores, cars with faux wood panel, MTV FANatic, The Box,...................
What are yours?